Monkey See and Monkey Do. And i have many Monkeys around ME

I am interested in style and fashion,to which I have high chances that others get inspired by my style in one way or another. They try to recreate a similar outfit with their own wardrobe items, or purchase similar, if not exactly the same pieces which is irritating to me. 

You know how the saying goes, “imitation is the highest form of flattery”. But how do I really feel when someone copies my style, or purchases the same wardrobe items. Am I flattered? Or am I annoyed that what I thought was an exclusive item or outfit combination and suddenly it's not that unique anymore.

I am in my 20’s and it is extremely important that my style is felt special and unique. I get annoyed and threatened when people ask me where I bought my wardrobe items in fear that they would copy my style and heaven forbid, wear the same clothes as me. I feel that I have to desperately hang onto my “unique style”, which isn't that unique in the first place, in order to continue feeling fab. In fact, I considered it a style failure when I see someone else wearing the same thing because this mean's that my look isn’t special anymore.

Thank goodness Iam growing wiser and more secure in my style as the years pass by.I am asked most  of the time where I’ve bought an item that I am wearing. So I try to be okay with people purchasing my wardrobe items or to some extent copying part of my ensemble. Because now I think they lack individuality. As a person I am artistic and have a great taste with things and people are insecure and less confident about their own self so they have to imitate me. 

Ihave changed the way I think about style imitation when I understood that style is from the inside out. Even when people wear the same wardrobe items as I do, they will wear them in ways that reflect who "they are" and not "who I am". A dressing recipe may start off with the same ingredients, but the flavor changes because taste levels vary. Since no one can rob me of that level of uniqueness, there is no longer a need to guard it for me. 

I admit that I still get a kick out of wearing an item or ensemble combination that people cannot easily replicate. It makes my style feel elevated in some small way, and that’s kind of a special feeling. Thing is, I also know that I have the power to make an item look and feel exclusive by adding my personal style stamp, and that feels even more special.

Actually nowadays I’m flattered when people spot the same things as I do, or ask me where I purchased my wardrobe items I think I am changing an change is inevitable. I am equally flattered when my ensemble inspires someone else’s ensemble. These imitations have become style compliments and are no longer threats.But trust me i have been lucky enough always that people actually try but fail to get the same things I have as its always one last piece (lolzz), but trust me there comes the problem of borrowing then :( !!! But as I said I am always LUCKY my clothes cannot fit anyone and everyone so I stay safe :)

It's over to that whether you are flattered when someone copies your style.Or how you feel when someone purchases “your” clothing, footwear or accessories. Important is for you is to feel that what you are wearing is completely unique, cause you are unique.  Come on, feel it as you are trend setters.

But peeps , There is a world around who not only takes your style but also wants to snatch away the people in your life. To safe guard myself from such people I actually do nothing but let it go the one who is taking away and the one who is going away, cause ultimately now I know what is mine will always belong to me irrespective of anythings. Change for me is not inevitable in matters of relations cause I don't change as a December Fall. That's me and Its really difficult being me. ( I have serious attitude ).

 And if it worries you more gift the insecure copy cat a book "How to win friends and influence people" 

  May be they learn to make there own relations ( HAHAHAHA ) 

Prioritize your life to make time for yourself

There are some weeks where every moment of the day seems to be busy. Whether the phone is ringing off the hook, you’re late, or if you have too much crammed into one day, sometimes the hustle and bustle just gets to you.

Accepting that’s it’s okay to say ‘no.’ Saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no,’ is something many of us struggle with. But going beyond feeling badly and realizing that you must say no in order to keep your sanity, pride or whatever else, is a crucial step in not feeling crushed by obligations. So, before you sign up for another committee or another date you know you won’t really be able to help with, spell it out simply and firmly, with “NO.” You’ll be glad you did.

Going with the flow – and enjoying it. There are some days when everything you thought was going to happen just didn’t pan out because of circumstances beyond your control. So, “roll with the punches” and take this in stride, knowing you did the very best you could to do what needed to be done. And, while you’re at it, enjoy the process! when I am stuck in bus? I take the time to call a loved one, listen to my favorite song.

Taking time for yourself. If life has you caught up in a vicious circle of repeat and re-repeat, it’s time to take your own personal holiday. You don’t need to go out of town, even though that would be nice. You can simply schedule “your own weekend.” Do only the things you want to do—take time for a nap and to relax, slow down your speed and rejuvenate your body. During this time, spend a moment being grateful for everything you have, big and small.

Changing your routine. Feel like you’re stuck in a rut and that every day is exactly the same? Switching up your routine will get your body and creativity flowing. So, change I up my schedule and gain new perspective. Try a new workout routine, I check out a new restaurant or just alter my morning commute – I feel refreshed, rejuvenated and reenergized.

Just Relax. This five-letter word is a challenge. Many of us don’t even know what it means to relax! Well, the first step is to actually make time for relaxation – so schedule it in that jam-packed calendar of yours! Whether you pack your belongings the night before so you can set your alarm half an hour later or splurge on something special you haven’t done in awhile, choose whatever makes you the happiest and enjoy it!

Basics Everyone Should Learn And Practice......

It’s come to my attention that the vast majority of problems could be solved if we followed some fundamental rules. Nope, college courses are not necessary. Rather, all we need is a trip down memory lane…

10 Life Lessons I Learned In Kindergarten…

1. Share. It’s true: sharing is caring. Whether you’re a pro in your field with information to share or just have an extra (healthy) cookie. Share. Just as the classroom was a better place when we all shared, so too is the world.

2. Look both ways before crossing the street. Yes, even if you’re texting. (Especially if you’re texting.)

3. Wash your hands before eating. The sandbox may still be one of the germiest places of all time (in my head anyway), but the subway is pretty darn gnarly too. A little soap and water does everyone good – especially if you’re sharing.

4. Play fair. Follow the rules, watch out for your teammates and don’t play dirty. No one likes a cheater (case in point: John Edwards). And no biting…outside of the bedroom (if you’re into that sorta thing).

5. Find a buddy. Even The New York Times today wrote about the importance of female companionship across species as a necessary means of survival. Literally, it can be a matter of life or death.

6. Say you’re sorry. It’s amazing how far two words can take you in the world. Admit mistakes and learn from them. Say, “I’m sorry.” Your ego will forgive you for the minor discretion.

7. Clean up after yourself. No one likes a slob – and, trust me, if the cuteness points didn't work when you were 5, they’re not going to work now. Face it: you ‘aint getting any cuter than the 3 and a half foot version of you.

8. No hitting. Seriously. It’s a non-negotiable whether you’re 6 or 66. Keep your hands to yourself. (Except when following rule #11)

9. Put things back where you found them. Whether you borrow a pen from a co-worker or use the Kettle bells at the gym, put them back where you found them. Everyone will be happier in the end (and you may just be able to find what you’re looking for in the future too.)

10. Hold hands. It’s a scary world out there…holding hands makes everything better.

Heart Mumbai!!!! (BOMBAY)

Chhatrapati Shivaji Terminus (formerly Victoria Terminus), was completed in 1888. 

 Mumbaikar is a the word for all born there.Though I first want to admit it’s not the “relatively quiet place” it once was, there’s a method to the madness…if you know what to look for. “No place is as random as Mumbai — from its people to its traffic to its slums,” “But in the midst of this chaos, there is still a melodious rhythm to it all.” Here are a few of favorite things about the sprawling cityscape which I call as the entertainment city of India. 

Mumbai City

When I go visit Mumbai, the first place I would go is Juhu Beach.

The view from Marine Drive. 

Winter is the best time to visit the city because the weather’s not too humid and Diwali, Christmas, and Holi celebrations take over town.

You can see the city best from the street. Whether you’re walking or in a vehicle, every lane is buzzing with life.

Locals know to skip Bombay Bazaar and check out roadside markets instead.

Colaba Causeway is the place to buy authentic, local souvenirs.

In the past, notable people like Dadasaheb Phalke, J.R.D. Tata, and Mukesh Ambani have called Mumbai home.

City’s best museum is Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj Vastu Sangrahalaya (formerly known as the Prince of Wales Museum of Western India) because it recently showcased Egyptian mummies.

If there’s one thing you should know about getting around the city, it’s that street names here change very often. Always double check the addresses before heading out.

The best places to spend time outdoors in the city are the seaside coffee shops and eateries in Bandra or on Marine Drive.

A vegetable vendor at Crawford Market.

The city really knows how to celebrate life because even after a riot or a terrorist attack, the next day you’ll find people going about their lives in a normal way.

You can tell if someone is from Mumbai if they know why Bombay changed its name to Mumbai.

For a fancy night out, I go to the Palladium.

Just outside Mumbai, you can visit the Khandala, Lonavala, or Matheran hill stations.

Mumbai is known for being glamorous but it’s really honest.

The best outdoor market in of the city is Crawford Market.

Shiv Sagar is my favorite place to grab breakfast, and Venky’s is the spot for late-night eats.

To find out what’s going on at night and on the weekends, read Time Out Mumbai.

The city’s biggest sports event is ODI cricket. Watching it at Wankhede Stadium is fun. The Mumbai Marathon is also not to miss.

Dabbawalas deliver hundreds of thousands of meals to workers around Mumbai each day. 

When I’m feeling cash-strapped, I go shopping on Hill Road in Bandra. Or, if I’m hungry, I might stop by one of the many roadside stalls selling chaat.

To escape the crowds, I go to Mount Mary Church or Crossword Bookstores.

If Mumbai were a celebrity it’d be Madhuri Dixit because her dazzling and open smile pretty much reflects the attitude of Mumbai.

The dish that represents Mumabi best is vada pav, and chai is signature drink.

The legendary Taj Mahal Palace hotel is my favorite building in town because it’s symbolic to Mumbai.

The most random thing about Mumbai are the dabbawalas and vendors who hawk on board local trains. They sell absolutely everything — even cookware!

Chai: Mumbia’s signature drink. 

Hard Rock Cafe is the best place to see live music, but if you’re in the mood to dance, check out Zenzi Mills.

Bollywood could only happen in Mumbai. 

There are only three seasons in Mumbai:

In the summer, you should wear lots of sunscreen and eat anything flavored with fresh mango.

In the rainy season, you should walk on flooded roads and sip hot chai.

In the winter, you should be ready to celebrate weddings, Diwali, and a plethora of other festivals, like Kala Ghoda.

If you have kids (or are a kid at heart), you won’t want to miss Essel World.

When I think about Mumbai, the song that comes to my mind is Ae Dil Hai Mushkil Jeena Yahan.

In 140 characters or less, the world should heart Mumbai because it’s a city with random stories at every turn. It changes every minute.

When I have a Bad day I don't forget to remember " I have my Angel "

I have learned that life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment, and that life’s greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate an unwavering commitment to push forward even when times are tough.

Sometimes I catch myself staring at the people around me – studying their gestures and expressions.  I wonder, “What’s their story?  What are they searching for?  What makes their heart beat with happiness, with sorrow, with fear, and with longing?”  And then I ask myself,  that even on the toughest days, our hearts all beat for these same things?”

  I am okay.  I am just a little stronger now.

Having a bad day?  It’s okay.  I am okay.  But now i am  a little stronger than I  was yesterday.

I Put my hand on my heart.  Feel it?  That’s called ‘a purpose.  I am here today for a reason. I won’t give up and won’t give in.  And above all, I don’t let one or two dark clouds cover the entire sky.  The sun is always shining on some part of my life.  Sometimes I just have to forget how I feel, remember what I deserve, and keep pushing forward.

its to keep in mind that I have made mistakes.  I have  made absolute fools of myself.  I have let people take advantage of me, and I’ve accepted way less than I deserve.  And sometimes, I too have given others way less than they deserve.  Sometimes I let my priorities and my boundaries get ravished by the chaos of the day.  But if I think about it, I’ve learned a lot from my bad choices, and even though there are some things I can never recover, and people who will never be sorry, I now know better for next time.  I now have more power to shape my future.

I am far more capable than you think.

I have to remember that I am incredibly capable of handling great challenges.  But when times are good, and everything is comfortably in order, it can be easy to become complacent and forget how skillful and resourceful I am capable of being.  Unanticipated troubles are necessary cause that push me forward; because the troubles will eventually end, but the lessons and growth I gain from them will last a lifetime.

Truth be told, there are two types of pain in life: pain that hurts you, and pain that grows you.  But when I learn from a difficult experience, they are one and the same.  Strength doesn’t come from what I can do.  It comes from overcoming the things I could not do before.  Tough situations build strong, successful people.  So no matter how much it hurts , I have to hold my head up, grit my teeth, and take another step.  I am not going to waste time complaining.  Focus diligently through my struggles and remember the good in I have and get from others who are near me 

The ultimate happiness is in the fact that I have been guarded always by the angle sent by God cause I am blessed and his favorite child always. I have been guided the right way and learned the right things through mistakes and advice's my loved ones have given. I am vulnerable and I may cry but if I fear then I may die. 

Thank you so much cause the times I have failed and fallen, you have always been there to hold me. My arms are to weak but my knees are to strong. 

Things that make me happy when I miss home!!!! cause HoMe Is WhErE My HeArT iS

After being away from home for months, it’s probably only human that I’m starting to really miss home. I mean really miss it.

 Home is where the heart is.

It’s not just my family, friends, and place that I miss, but it’s the very notion of home – home as a concept – home as a base – home as a place to return and get a good ol’ dose of homeliness

So while I’m finding it increasingly difficult to wait till the day of my flight. I know that this isn't the answer. I embarked on my year of travelling the world to see, experience, and discover as much of the world as I could in one year. While I would love to have a home base (and look forward to the day where I do have a home base outside of India), I know that if I were to walk through the door of my home, I would immediately wish I had have stuck it out and kept exploring.

Who knows, maybe I can sneak in a short trip at some stage....after I have an established home.

Here’s what is currently making me happy when I miss home…

Frozen

Let it goooooo, let it goooooooooo….. This film is just too cute, too sincere, and too lovable. Whenever I’m missing home I will either play it in the background or simply play the soundtrack and sing along as I push through my work in my room. I love Disney and I LOVE this film, and above all I love my Sister THE MOST... so the movie is a lot more closer to my heart. 

Chocolate – good, quality chocolate

Okay okay so I’m not really that picky when it comes to chocolate… just make sure it’s kinder chocolate and I’m a happy chappy. 

Skyping my family back home

There’s nothing that makes me happier than a quick Skype call to my family back home. I will always give them a buzz whenever I feel like it and its almost as if they sit there waiting for the call! I speak to my family once a week on Skype on average, but once I let it go for a month before noticing I hadn't Skyped them! That being said, sometimes I Skype them twice in one day. It just depends what exciting news I have to tell them. Family is everything!

Stretching/Yoga

Sometimes all I need to do is take some time out of my day to unwind and I find that is best achieved by a nice long stretching session or some yoga. As I work all day it is often hard to remember to take the time to just breathe, but whenever I do I always feel better in an instant.

Filling up an online shopping cart and crossing out of it before checking out

Retail therapy is a cure I feel strongly about (haha). I’ve found the best way to get the thrill of ‘shopping’ without breaking the bank is to put everything in your cart and right before it’s time to cash up, close the internet browser. Sure, this also means I never get new clothes by shopping this way…. but I still get the fun of shopping without cringing at a card bills later on! Still but I do a lot of buying for my family back home and that makes me really really happy of and no loss of money affects me. 

Doing all what I like

Getting all that candles with the fragrance and lighting up my mood, I would go spa and pamper myself. Still if that doesn't work I go eat the similar taste of food which my mum makes or at least which belongs to the culture where I come from & that surely not only satisfies my tummy but my heart also. I feel and so I start talking to people in my language, haha it is anyone and everyone and doesn't matter to me if they don't understand cause ultimately it is helping me. 

Knowing how blessed I am

Sometimes I get so lonely, tired, sick, or upset that it is difficult not to want to go home – even just for a day to see my family and then hit the road again. But the one thing that ALWAYS gets me through and keeps me on the road with a strong work ethic, is knowing how blessed I am to live this life. So many people would kill to have the life I have – travelling the world full time, meeting amazing people in the industry, living so independently & being strong on my own. I know how blessed I am, how hard I’ve worked, and how far I still have to go. That’s the one thing that gets me through above all others when I miss home.

Over to you… what do you do / crave / eat / think / feel when you miss home?

I am not angel and I have my flaws

I believe her eyes has shown me places, I have never travelled to. 

Places out of my reach. 

Countries, cities and town all the time I have dreamed of seeing. 

Her lips has kissed most sensetively, and left scars no one else could ever see.

Her hands see uses as weapons, stealing every beating heart and connecting her own valves, making it impossible to live without the blood flowing through her body. 

I have fell in love with her the very time I have seen her but was too afraid to let myself know it. 

I may loose her and still her play me as her favorite instrument. 

She knows her note, every chord and repeatedly strums her favorite song, never growing tired of my melody. 

She could get the men under her spell , I am the luckiest.

I am the one she can never put away,

Never unattached herself from, 

Never to love.....

Again and love again and love again..... 

She is so damm incrediable,

But why would I bend over. 

Still I don't admit, and still I am chasin her in my dreams.

She will ask me dress up in colours else then black, but I will no more. 

I sleep and wake up, but I don't so affection no more. 

There's no direction where do I go

They wanna see us let go but I'm sure you know 

That I will never walk out that door 

And I'm sure you know 

That I will be there to fight for you and will look out for you 

Even though you were letting go 

You will always be my only 

No I'll never leave you loney

You're my friend, you're my homie

But I just wanna hold hands with you again

Why why would you think I don't love you no more

No more no more no more no more

I just want to be a better man. 

I'm far from an angel or reverend. 

Got a little personal, but let me break it down

I'm not the only one out here going through it now

We gotta be here for each other when it hit the ground

I know you heard it, and work it

Don't give up it'll all work out

Can't never stop hoping, for certain.

I be grinding until the day that I die.

What if you never I never see her again 

What if there was no tomorrow with her.....

So one more time 

I want to resolve and I will reserve a place

Cause I rock with her and she rocks with me