I Promise I will never give up & I will Die yelling and Laughing.

She is romantic but not hopeless. If anything she had hoped for too much. She Hoped for laughter and Forgiveness. She hoped for that plane ticket, and getting tattoo she'd always talked about getting it done. She hoped her wounds would heal. And everyday she left things undone, so she hoped for more hopes. But she never gave up. She is only hard to understood by those who sound like everyone else. Her smile still points to the stars, But everything that glitters is not gold. She is not bitter her words are just not sugar coated. May me she took too long to decide who she actually wanted to be. She is dressing her wounds with everything she finds to be beautiful. She has learned to protect herself. She is wanting to believe cause everything cannot be so good to be true. She knew for her everything this world needed would come to life with her real smile and overwhelming love for the One. Somewhere between what she survived and what she was becoming, was exactly where she was mean to be. Her Past years has stolen so much that it is practically criminal. The world told her to fix herself first. But what if she is not meant to be alone? What if an isolated life is when she is at her worst ? May be it takes more bravery for her to seek forgiveness and surrender a part of her to whom she always loved, then to try and do it all whatever she wants to by herself.   Surely she believed in love but if you ask her "why" she couldn't tell you. May be she loved cause it was about whom she loved. the most perfect things can't stay in one place for too long. the moon shines in stages, the tide must subside and eventually the sun will shine for her. She believes in love because she believes in herself. If she cared about you at some point, chances are she will always care about you. if she loved you and you are no longer with her she has learned to love your memory. Do you know the kind of bravery it takes to go through the change and stay true when she is still unsure about the outcome of her change. She has a picture in her head of what she wants and till now she was bending everyone to fit them in her frame, but now she has realized that she is and artist and she hold the brush. Only with her steady hand and keen passion she can paint her future. Please don't rush until she has complete. She will prove to be have a master piece while she is making this. She is no princess and her life is no fairy tale but she is real. Again she is not perfect but she is magic. She is different, she loves and cries too hard. But believe me she has limitations tooo, don't know how far she will take this one life she is given.Who will be with her till the end is her challenge. Its not just about making her laugh but to understand why she smiles. She has learned to laugh when she wanted to cry. I loved the way she survived, Survival looked good on her. There are no dark marks under her eyes, May be they are deep inside. But I like the way she looks through them and laughs at life. She has learned to do it gracefully. She has walked over glass and through fire, and she still smiles cause she is spreading it to others and doesn't want others to see what she has been through. She contradicts herself, cause she is strong and weak both at the same time. She has lived and reborn a few times by now. She knows what it is like to loose everything and still live for others. She has learned and has managed. She breaks down at times and she always confidently says " Don't you worry, I will be ok" .... She got to be ok, she ain't has any choice. She is standing for something. She is standing for someone. I want to thank her for surviving. I thank her cause now I know someone was willing to stand for with her tooo. 

She is no one but, she is myself. I know her better now and she is helping me educate about her, cause past has taught her and now she learned to trust if not all but at least in herself. I love myself and she is within me. I promise her not to let her fail not to let her quit. She is determined with genuine intention. She will win. I will win. I thank myself. I thank universe in making me what I am. 

Born to indulge beyond the reach of others !!!!!‏

As I see it, you are living with something that you keep hidden deep inside. You fear your eyes might open up the secrets and so you cover them up most of the times. But I have already seen that spark !!! You have a strong gaze as if you have made up your mind about something. I know you want to moan, I know you want to gasp in my ear, but you try and hide the sound, trying to smoother it but I still have heard it clear. Your soul tempts me and I have the time to explore the mysterious things within it, as I want to experience every corner, every depth in you. You are a warrior & conqueror but there is a dark empire to which I claim you to be the king of that lost kingdom. The kingdom not that you have own with your fame and money but the kingdom where you lost love and affection, as I have been the rightful queen for one such kingdom of my own. But worry not about the past as you are a breathe of fresh air in hell hole of cage, where everyone lives. You make people admire you like the sky admires moon. 

Being with you is like it's possible to be on vacation forever and I am aware though you are fun outside there is the one who wants someone with him all the time to share this joyful time. You are both art and fortune accident to me. I love the freedom of speech in you which is art and blessed to hear that which I am fortunate of. 


You to others are as secure as a promise but long for security & commitment. The toughness like coconut in you not let many to enter inside and peep in what it is all about to be you ! To be YOU !!! But it is for sure I guess not have been easy way through till date. 
No longer your thoughts and dreams are trapped by the confines to the lines of piece of paper. You share social skills and enjoy crowd and business meetings, but there are lots of buts, and one is deep inside prefers to devote time and energy to his closed ones. 

"You"
The very you listens more than talks, thinks before you speak, your brain dislikes conflicts and heart doesn't want small talks, but as I said lots of "buts" , but you enjoy deep discussions. You by talks and actions awaken them, still some never awake till they know they are dead. 
You know you get scars from touching some people but the lion in you has the heart to hug them cause you know humanity is greater then hatred.. 
You are an inspiration,
You strip me naked bare like a tree in mid winters, and inspire me to bloom colorful and bright like spring. To this world and me oxygen has been replaced with inspiration, hard-work, determination, innovation, sincerity, honesty, clarity, transparency and passion are the elements of your concoction. You taste of all this and much more. I see people drinking you parched when they are dehydrated. You force me to create pages of my thoughts when I write for you, but still it will be not enough. 

You way lay there with you pure soul and fresh skin, while I will paint my vision of you in words. It will be silent and still not awkward. 
I know you speak to people through melodies and mental vibrations, I have been the witness. You work the room of audience just as graceful as you work their mind, and if I ever I had to introduce you in one sentence, it will be ......
" You are a muse" & 
" You forever fuel me ............" 

Wish I could

Wish I could keep you much longer 

I know you gotta go cuz you got things to do 

Wish I could keep you much longer 

Now you to busy for me boy like I was to you 

Wish I could stop by 

And maybe say hi 

Wish I could jus stop by 

And lay by your side 

The tables have turned 

And I've finally learned 

That this is makin up for every day I was gone 

And that's why I'm concerned 

But now it's confirmed 

That you spread your wings and learned to fly all alone 

Darkness in the night 

I'll find that light for you 

As long as I got eyes 

I'll have a sight for you 

Long as I am alive baby I'd die for you 

I wanna be with you 

Wish I could keep you much longer 

I know you gotta go cuz you got things to do 

Wish I could keep you much longer 

Now you to busy for me boy like I was to you 

Wish I could stop by 

And maybe say hi 

You're always on my mind 

While I'm breathing 

While my heart is beating 

You were there when I said one day I'd get up out that mess and 

Make things work for us

For you, there's no replacement 

You will always be my love

And you can hold me on that statement 

Darkness in the night 

I'll find that light for you 

As long as I got eyes 

I'll have a sight for you 

Long as I am alive baby I'd die for you 

Wanna be with you 

Wish I could keep you much longer 

I know you gotta go cuz you got things to do 

Wish I could stop by 

And maybe say hi 

Baby I know you 

And how we do 

Doin exactly what you taught me

And I know I gotta just take it 

Even though it's drivin me crazy 

Always wanted to see my boy make it 

Wish I could keep you much longer 

I know you gotta go cuz you got things to do 

Wish I could keep you much longer 

Now you to busy for me boy Alike I was to you 

Wish I could keep you so much longer 

Wish I could stop by 

And maybe say "hi" 

Wish I could jus stop by 

And lay by your side 

Wish I could keep you much longer 

I know you gotta go cuz you got things to do 

Wish I could keep you much longer 

Now you to busy for me girl like I was to you 

Wish I could keep you baby 

I just wanna keep you longer

Anger WAS my enemy!!!

“For every moment you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

I’m not an angel. In fact, many used to lovingly call me a “fierce creature.” This fiery inclination can be due to inborn temperament, but it can also be a result of post-traumatic stress or similar brain-impacting life events.

It’s taken a concerted effort, over long period now, for me to become more loving, tolerant, and peaceful.

But I still lose it from time to time.
 I become curt and defensive, cold anger seeping through me. After all, I’ve already been on the grounds at least a million times.

Indulging in Anger Harms Your Health and Happiness

In each case, I am caught in an almost automatic response. But I quickly recognize the error of my ways. Why? Because, in addition to harming others, I know that indulging in anger harms my own health and detracts from my own happiness too.

When I’m triggered by anger, I feel an upsurge of energy at first—almost a high—as adrenalin surges through my body. But this feisty response quickly dissolves into feeling all churned up. If I start replaying the scene in my mind, easy to do, the emotional turmoil can keep on for days.

On the other hand, genuine regret pops up. Then I feel bad about myself. I get caught up in how to fix the mess, pulled between my self-righteousness and an ardent wish to let go. 

Almost always,in healing the wound fir me it takes considerable time—time that could have been used for better purposes if I had only held my tongue.

Anger is like a boomerang. It always comes back to haunt me in negative ways.

Scientific research verifies how chronic anger is injurious to anyone's health. In fact, anger especially hurts your heart. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, and heart disease can result from an untamed anger response. Anger may be implicated in diabetes too.

When aggression activates my body’s “fight or flight” system—the adrenalin response—the immune system also goes on hold. This can cause further wide-ranging effects. All this means that angry people like me are more likely to get sick. 

Anger just makes me look ugly and unapproachable.

Taking all the ill effects of anger into account, who would knowingly act in a vexing way? While anger may seem out of our control, that’s not truly the case. The mind is pliable and flexible; it can be trained. I have learned to cultivate love, patience, and tolerance in place of aggressive ways.

How to Turn Anger Around

Once you’re already caught in anger’s snare, what to do? When I lose it, like I usually do, this is how I intentionally turn anger around and sculpt a new route of joy and happiness in my brain.

1. Take responsibility.

Whatever the circumstances, anger comes from within. I take responsibility for my emotion and don’t try to pin it on anyone else.

2. Breathe.

I allow myself time to calm down. I don’t re-engage until my heart and mind feel steady and clear.

3. Apologize.

I backtrack and apologize for my errant words. Harmful words endanger trust in a relationship.  An apology may not immediately repair the hurt that’s occurred, but it’s the right thing to do and creates the space for healing to take place in the right time.

4. Transform the Negative Energy.

Think a positive thought or moment. I try to put myself in the other person’s shoes, understand their perspective, and counter my anger with love, patience, and tolerance. 

5. Resolve.

I resolve to never express another angry thought in words or deeds. Not to even let an angry thought tumble around in my mind endlessly. I know I can’t stop difficult thoughts or emotions from arising in the mind because they are the result of long en trained habits; but I don’t have to fuel or act upon them.

Realistically, I will probably trip up again, but setting a positive intention steadily reorients my behavior in a positive way. 

6. Forgive Yourself.

I’m only human. I forgive myself.

7. Move On.

I let go of any thoughts about the event. It’s over and done. Better to stay in the present moment than rehash the past or artificially construct a future, which may never come to pass.

Catch Anger Before It Catches You 

Anger tends to create an explosive mess that quickly becomes more and more entangled. Isn’t it smarter to avoid anger in the first place if you can?

Love and patience are the two most powerful antidotes to anger.

The tendency to get angry slowly erodes when you actively cultivate love and patience every day. Just as darkness cannot exist in the light, love and patience will outshine anger every time.

An easy way to cultivate love is to recall a memory of a time you felt deeply loved as a child or as an adult. If it was a moment of unconditional love, all the better, but any glimmer of love will serve as a spark.

As the sensations of love begin to arise in your heart, allow them to grow stronger and stronger.  Bask in this feeling of warmth and then start sending love to your self by softly repeating the phrases, “May I be happy. May I be well. May I be safe.”

Next, progressively extend these feelings of love to your family, close friends, strangers, and even people you dislike. It might be hard at first, but little by little, through dedicated training, you will be able to encircle the whole world with love.

Another way to inoculate your mind and heart against the vagaries of anger is to reflect on the benefits of patience each day. Consider how patience will help you become:

• More peaceful and gentle
• More open, flexible, and relaxed
• Easier to get along with
• Able to turn around negative circumstances
• Grounded, Courageous, and Confident

By infusing your mind with the wonder of patience again and again, it will be easier to pause and meet dissatisfaction or anger with a more enlightened response.

The aim of our practice isn’t to suppress or deny anger. When anger arises, don’t try to push it away. It will only grow stronger if you do. See it clearly and apply love, compassion, and patience to melt anger away.

Isn’t it clear? We’ll never find happiness with anger by our side. Anger immediately disrupts our own mind.

By cultivating love and patience, even just a few moments a day, I have gradually overshadowed anger and felt greater peace and contentment too. And, should anger ever come to visit me,I have now known exactly what to do.                                                                    
    As the title described, anger was my enemy, but for now I am friends with it to understand it and advice it, tame it, control it!!! My friend ANGER has changed itself with the help of me from bad to good..........

But I am only Human !!!And I make mistakes, Forgive me and it will help me forgive muyself,,,, cause keeping a grudge against me will make my heart fill with guilt and ultimately I will stay unhappy. Please help me smile and spread that smile to others .....



Thanks
Tasneem Lokhandwala. 

He Is the Boy My Heart Will Never Get Over

He Is the Boy My Heart Will Never Get Over 

I remember him because he is always there, distant but never completely gone. I keep him in the smell of my clothes, between the pages of my books. I sometimes like to open the pages and find him again, like a vivid memory that’s aged like a fine wine, I see him. I close my eyes and breathe him in. I move my head back, tilt it to the side and recall how it felt when his head rested there.

I read old notes, proof that same love lived within us both at one time. I smile at the memory of the way he would blink at me across the room, in order to make me feel better for not being able to wink. Saved in the folds of my mind is the image of my favorite person, the one that sits in the corner of my eye and deep in my heart. I jump, and remember the feeling of his arms locking tightly around me ensuring  I’d never fall.

I see the visions of a life with him, of travels and triumphs. I can taste the happiness, just as I can taste the sweetness he had while he was with me. I laugh at the inside jokes, the funny faces, the games, the dance moves, and the effortless of it all. I cry when I relive the time we had spent, how proud I am, of all he has done and will do.

I am thankful for how strong he’s made me, how vulnerable he convinced me to become. I look in the mirror and notice just how lovely he’s made me, the confidant woman I've grown to be. I can stand on my own two feet; I am unafraid to publish words that before riddled the insides in my thoughts. I have courage because he’s made me brave, his voices echoes in my ears the encouragement I always needed.

He’s freed me. He is the boy I've built up for so long. He is the one who taught me to love,carried me home when I was tired, and put a blanket over me as I slept. He is the one who moreover everything taught me to stand up and speak the truth, made me learn the burden of guilt can be shared, made me face the people with my imperfection and have heart to learn from my mistakes. He is the one who you’d cross oceans for, the one who had me convinced I could settle down — even if in the far future. He is the boy I love, in the most beautiful form of the word.

He is the boy I walked away from, because between “for always” and “forever” I spouted wings that yearned to fly. He is the one I’ll never forgive myself for hurting, the one I save in my heart. He crosses my mind each day, and it simultaneously brings me joy and a pain. He is the boy my own heart will never get over.



That's Him !!!! My Heart, My Mind, My soul will never ever let go of !!!!! 

Risk Is New Safe !!!!!

 

E-Commerce/Network Marketing - Basics to be known 

Facing Down Fear of Rejection in E-Commerce. 

You’re afraid to call.  You’re afraid to bring it up in person.  You’re afraid to approach those really powerful prospects on your candidate list. 

Why ?

Because they might reject you.  BOOM!

So what?

I mean really.  So what?  Here’s the most fascinating thing about rejection in network marketing:  If you’re not getting some rejection, you’re not really doing your job.

Here’s why:  Our business is perfect for everybody.  But everybody is not perfect for our business.  Not everyone is willing to do the work, or willing to give up watching five hours of television nightly.

If someone tells me they've never been rejected and that every single person they've talked to has joined their business, it reveals something important.

If you are, then you should be getting some rejection.  Now if you’re getting too much – let’s say you approach ten people and all ten reject you – then you need to work on your skills.  Talk to your Up line and do some role playing.   Don’t stop or give up just because you face some rejection.  That simply means you’re in the game, doing something at a high level.

The greater your fear is of something, the more important it is for you to do it.

No Charge Excuses in E-Commerce. 

It’s that time of year again.  People are reflecting on their lack of progress, the goals they didn’t meet, and looking for why it wasn’t their own fault. 

The products are too expensive.  This is always a good choice, popular with most people who don’t succeed in network marketing.  It never occurs to them that the top earners in their company sell products at the same prices, so why should you worry about it?

I live in a small town.  Another old standby that works great.  You can use this excuse with confidence, because most people don’t realize that some of the most successful people in our business hail from small towns and villages.

People are too conservative where I live.  Don’t use this one if there are other successful people in your area or it doesn’t work.  Only use it if all the successful people in network marketing live outside your area.

I don’t know that many people.  This is always a solid excuse to use, because no one is going to question it.  Even though you probably had hundreds of people at your wedding, went to school with hundreds more, have lived next to dozens and dozens over the years, have hundreds of connections on social media etc. – most of those people don’t know each other, so your secret is safe with me.

How to Work Your Business

Show me a new person in E-Commerce who pledges to work their new business like a business, and I’ll show you someone that will crack like a walnut. 

Why?

Because when people go into business for themselves, they think there’s something mystical about it.  They think they can only do it after they do the right amount of preparing, training, getting their mind right, and all the conditions are go.

So when they feel a cold coming on, the mother-in-law comes to visit, or the holiday season hits – they check out.  All the conditions aren’t conducive to working the business perfectly.  So they don’t work it.

Now take the way they approach their job…

They still show up when they have the sniffles, monster-in-law comes to town, or the electronics store is offering 40 percent off.  They show up to their job because they have to show up to it.  They have to show up or they don’t get paid.

Want to have a great business?  Don’t work it like a business.  Work it like your job!

It May Not Be Sexy in E-Commerce 

Dare I say it? 

It may not be sexy to talk about the core, fundamental strategies for growing a Network Marketing organization today.

I get that…

Everyone wants to sell you lead generation systems, downline building services, or tell you that you can sit home in your bunny slippers doing social media posts.  If you believe that, you can stop reading now.

Since you’re still here, let me tell you what’s actually sexy.  Duplication is sexy. Helping new people break ranks is sexy.  Actually making money is sexy.  So let this note just serve as a reminder…

• It’s not what works – it’s what duplicates

• It doesn’t matter if you make fast money – if your people aren’t making money, your income is going to dry up.

• Building a large successful market is not easy; it’s not supposed to be.

• But building a large network that achieves steady growth is simple.  It’s done by leading a large group of people, to follow some simple actions over a sustained period of time.

What Is Full-Time in E-Commerce ?

The great thing about Network Marketing is that it is meant to be started part-time, with whatever business or job you currently have.  That’s the good news…

Here’s the bad news.  Or the really great news, depending on how you see it…

You can work part-time, but your passion has to be full-time.  Keep your passion at that level, and your part-time work will soon produce a better than full-time income.

And that’s what makes Network Marketing special.

Changing Your Results in E-Commerce. 

Maybe you don’t earn as much as you would like in your bonus check.   Maybe your group isn’t as big as you hoped it would be.  Maybe things just haven’t worked out the way you hoped when you first filled out that application form. 

Welcome to the club.  You’ve got lots of company.

No one can go back in time and create a new beginning.  But anyone can start right this moment and create a new ending!

The Multi-Level Mindset in E-Commerce.

Across Network Marketing, you will find a lot of diversity.  Skin care companies, cosmetics, diet programs, nutrition and wellness.Yet you also find striking similarities in the ultra-successful people in all these companies.

We’re talking about mindset…

Because there are ways of thinking that transcend product lines, comp plans and other variables.  These are the common traits, which are the prerequisites for long-term success in the business, and you find them in all top leaders across the profession.  Let’s look at them

Everyone in this group is a worker. They don’t look for the free lunches and get-rich schemes. Far from running away from work, they wake up, throw the sheets off the bed, and actually look forward to work! Being a network marketing professional means welcoming challenge, growth, and adventure and helping others while helping oneself. So they love what they do, and don’t need a weekend, a six-pack. They have discovered how to balance work and life and bring meaning to both.

Everyone in this group is a good teacher. They recognize that real duplication comes from their possessing good teaching skills much more than selling skills. They follow a formula that allows large numbers of people to replicate their actions.

Everyone is this group is also a student. They have a passion for lifelong learning and set aside daily time for quiet reflection and self-development. It’s important that you continually sharpen your saw. 

What matters is that you dedicate yourself to always being a little better today than you were yesterday.

How to Persuade People using Five I's of Persuasion: Persuade People and Influence Things, Tasks, and Time using 5i's

How to Persuade People using Five I's of Persuasion: Persuade People and Influence Things, Tasks, and Time using 5i's

By: Mr Sridhar C. 

God won’t give you more than you can handle.

Lately my time has been the difficult then I have ever gone through. It has been filled with illness,me suffering the consequence of sin, a part of me reeling in confusion and pain and me experiencing the emotional roller-coaster. 

Needless to say, I have had enough. But I can Handle much more, I am strong and I am HIS child and He never will let me fall and fail. 

I know I am not alone. I know some people who have dealt with far more for far longer.  But that doesn’t change the fact that my problems are less painful to me.  In the face of all this, I can honestly feel I have become a “pastor” and have the answer for this.  My questions before God about the reality of what I have experienced over a period are the exact same questions anyone would ask.

Why?
Why not step in?
Why not act?
Why wouldn’t you make it right?
Why couldn’t you part the clouds and provide a moment for me to catch my breath?
Why everything at once?
Why?

Not only am I okay asking those questions, but I think there is something holy and sacred in being courageous enough to ask them.  Don’t be fooled, those questions are only to be asked by the courageous.  But insipid axioms do little in the face of the actual brokenness of the world.  It is more courageous to ask the hard questions of God and wait for him to answer than it is to find hope on the side of coffee mug.  Asking those questions requires courage because, in the end, it is very likely they will not be answered right then and there. Now with the courage I have learned being patient. Cause for I have faith the questions will be answered but i have to wait. 

Ultimately, it isn’t about the questions.  Behind the questions is a deep current of emotion threatening to overtake me.  But too often, when the fracture in the universe threatens to swallow us up in pain I fail to get fully present to my emotions.  In those moments I think I do one of two things.  Either I ask the questions but never investigate what emotion is driving those questions, or I resort to some meaningful slogan to try and make me feel better.

This experience forced me to look at one such statement that gets spouted often when people go through a lot:  God won’t give you more than you can handle.  i sometimes thought of not trusting this lines but yet I am living and I am breathing for life that has proved it to be right cause somewhere inside I am fighting it. Now those lines have made me learn to have faith and hope. It has made me stronger and braver then I was. I am fighter and I won't quite as He has chosen me with this struggle for he knew I have the strength to find my way out. 

Now that I have said how I feel,  I want to link this statement to another. This particular statement, that “God won’t give you more than you can handle,” is a statement that sounds like “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to humankind.  And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.”  You won’t be tempted beyond what you can stand up against. I only feel that if I want it so bad I will have hardship to get that cause fulling my dreams don't come up easily. I will face problems and He will guard me help me and take me to what I want. I have learned to know that problems are created by me, whether big or small and I have now developed a lot of understanding of not blaming Him or anyone else for what I am going through.

Don’t hear me saying I am rejoicing.  I am not.  Not once have I danced around our house shouting, “Yeah suffering!”  Instead, in the midst of pain and hurt, I am actively expecting a lot out of myself and God to help me do something different to get thorough it.  I don’t know what.  I don’t know when.  But I am expecting  my soul to heal me.  I am expecting  myself to restore me.  I am expecting myself to redeem this situation. I believe expectant waiting can only happen when we exchange our feeble platitudes for an authentic faith that engages God with the full brunt of our emotion and pain.  Only then can salvation been seen.

But that exchange takes courage.

I have the courage 
I have the will 
I have the faith 
I have the time 
I have the dream 
I have what it takes from me to be through this and achieve what I want. 


I can fight the pain 
I can fight temptations 
I can fight bad vibes 
I can fight hatred with love 
I can fight lies with truth 
I can fight can't with can 
I can fight for whatever it takes to be there where I want to be.


I am strong
I am fearless 
I am happy 
I am blessed 
I am wise 
I am grown in times with wisdom 
I am free 
I am Human 


Small Poem : " I choose to love you in silence ... For in silence i find no rejection, 
                           I choose to love you in loneliness .... For in loneliness no one owns you but me. 
                           I Choose to adore you from a distance.... For distance will shield me from pain, 
                           I choose to kiss you in the wind .... For the wind is gentler than my lips,
                           I choose to hold you in dreams ..... For in my dreams, you have no End..... 
                           I choose to be with you ..... For I believe in miracles " ......

Secret of long-distance relationship

Relationships can be difficult and adding the considerable strain of long distance can make it considerably harder. But if two people love each other enough, then distance shouldn’t matter, right? Yet despite all the ways technology can help us stay in touch, long distance relationships frequently fail to work out. We sat down with leading relationship experts to find out the secrets to maintaining long distance love and why it so often fails.

Solving Communication
According to clinical psychologist, Dr. Rob Dobrenski, the largest barrier of long-distance relationships is lack of face-to-face communication. Couples invariably need not just emotional and physical intimacy, but also the ability to resolve conflicts. This is significantly easier when you can see your partner's facial expressions and non-verbal communication. Phone, text, email, Skype, Morse code, Instant Messaging, Facebook updates and carrier pigeons all still require a lot of guesswork to really gauge what's going on with your partner. This is especially true if couples aren't already the greatest at directly and confidently stating their feelings. Video chatting is a better option than a traditional phone call, as it allows you to read some of your partner’s non-verbal communication. Aside from just talking to each other regularly; use technology to do other things together, like play games online – this is a creative and fun exercise that can promote bonding. 'Loneliness will happen but it is important that you acknowledge and attempt to alleviate those feelings!'

Encounters
Dr. Barton Goldsmith PhD, says 'one of the things that keep a relationship together is real chemistry. Touching keeps the brain chemicals, like Oxytocin (also known as the cuddle hormone) and Serotonin (as well as several others that make us happy and feel connected) flowing through our brains and bodies. When you don’t get to connect, it’s harder to feel the love because you’re not able to produce enough these happiness chemicals to make you feel good and most people start to look for ways to get their ‘brain-chemical fix’ from those who are physically available.' This is why it is essential to keep the physical chemistry just as alive as the emotional chemistry. Plan to see one another as often as possible. That may mean costly travelling every now and again so you can tend to your long-distance relationship. It’s not easy and both partners need to commit equally but in the end you might be grateful that you did.

Increasing Trust
Unfortunately, over time, many long-distance relationships experience a degradation of trust and confidence. As you and your partner develop increasingly independent tendencies, your roles in each other’s lives will change. New friends and colleagues will be entering both your lives and this can lead to partners quickly becoming jealous. Jealousy can lead to fights, resentment and eventually the demise of your relationship. It is important to prepare for these changes early on and commit yourself to becoming as trusting and as trustworthy as possible. The increased independence can be a good thing, if you let it, enabling you to continue growing as individuals while still remaining a couple. Eventually, the goal is for one or both of you to relocate to be together and, if you have trust in each other, you can get there.

Keeping a Plan
Maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship is all about establishing and sticking to regular achievable goals that you have mutually agreed upon so you both feel like you are working towards something. Never make promises or agree to goals you can't keep. Your word is your bond. A healthy plan and set of goals should include: a daily schedule for communication, a mandatory minimum on Snail mail and small gifts per month, frequency of virtual dates, a schedule for somewhat regular visits and, most importantly, deciding on your monogamy. Remember, things won’t always go according to the plan you’ve set so it is important to anticipate changes and deal with them together as they come up. While, absence may make the heart grow fonder, don't let your relationship linger in this state for years – have an end date in mind in case neither of you can relocate back to the other within a reasonable timeframe.

Monkey See and Monkey Do. And i have many Monkeys around ME

I am interested in style and fashion,to which I have high chances that others get inspired by my style in one way or another. They try to recreate a similar outfit with their own wardrobe items, or purchase similar, if not exactly the same pieces which is irritating to me. 

You know how the saying goes, “imitation is the highest form of flattery”. But how do I really feel when someone copies my style, or purchases the same wardrobe items. Am I flattered? Or am I annoyed that what I thought was an exclusive item or outfit combination and suddenly it's not that unique anymore.

I am in my 20’s and it is extremely important that my style is felt special and unique. I get annoyed and threatened when people ask me where I bought my wardrobe items in fear that they would copy my style and heaven forbid, wear the same clothes as me. I feel that I have to desperately hang onto my “unique style”, which isn't that unique in the first place, in order to continue feeling fab. In fact, I considered it a style failure when I see someone else wearing the same thing because this mean's that my look isn’t special anymore.

Thank goodness Iam growing wiser and more secure in my style as the years pass by.I am asked most  of the time where I’ve bought an item that I am wearing. So I try to be okay with people purchasing my wardrobe items or to some extent copying part of my ensemble. Because now I think they lack individuality. As a person I am artistic and have a great taste with things and people are insecure and less confident about their own self so they have to imitate me. 

Ihave changed the way I think about style imitation when I understood that style is from the inside out. Even when people wear the same wardrobe items as I do, they will wear them in ways that reflect who "they are" and not "who I am". A dressing recipe may start off with the same ingredients, but the flavor changes because taste levels vary. Since no one can rob me of that level of uniqueness, there is no longer a need to guard it for me. 

I admit that I still get a kick out of wearing an item or ensemble combination that people cannot easily replicate. It makes my style feel elevated in some small way, and that’s kind of a special feeling. Thing is, I also know that I have the power to make an item look and feel exclusive by adding my personal style stamp, and that feels even more special.

Actually nowadays I’m flattered when people spot the same things as I do, or ask me where I purchased my wardrobe items I think I am changing an change is inevitable. I am equally flattered when my ensemble inspires someone else’s ensemble. These imitations have become style compliments and are no longer threats.But trust me i have been lucky enough always that people actually try but fail to get the same things I have as its always one last piece (lolzz), but trust me there comes the problem of borrowing then :( !!! But as I said I am always LUCKY my clothes cannot fit anyone and everyone so I stay safe :)

It's over to that whether you are flattered when someone copies your style.Or how you feel when someone purchases “your” clothing, footwear or accessories. Important is for you is to feel that what you are wearing is completely unique, cause you are unique.  Come on, feel it as you are trend setters.

But peeps , There is a world around who not only takes your style but also wants to snatch away the people in your life. To safe guard myself from such people I actually do nothing but let it go the one who is taking away and the one who is going away, cause ultimately now I know what is mine will always belong to me irrespective of anythings. Change for me is not inevitable in matters of relations cause I don't change as a December Fall. That's me and Its really difficult being me. ( I have serious attitude ).

 And if it worries you more gift the insecure copy cat a book "How to win friends and influence people" 

  May be they learn to make there own relations ( HAHAHAHA ) 

Prioritize your life to make time for yourself

There are some weeks where every moment of the day seems to be busy. Whether the phone is ringing off the hook, you’re late, or if you have too much crammed into one day, sometimes the hustle and bustle just gets to you.

Accepting that’s it’s okay to say ‘no.’ Saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no,’ is something many of us struggle with. But going beyond feeling badly and realizing that you must say no in order to keep your sanity, pride or whatever else, is a crucial step in not feeling crushed by obligations. So, before you sign up for another committee or another date you know you won’t really be able to help with, spell it out simply and firmly, with “NO.” You’ll be glad you did.

Going with the flow – and enjoying it. There are some days when everything you thought was going to happen just didn’t pan out because of circumstances beyond your control. So, “roll with the punches” and take this in stride, knowing you did the very best you could to do what needed to be done. And, while you’re at it, enjoy the process! when I am stuck in bus? I take the time to call a loved one, listen to my favorite song.

Taking time for yourself. If life has you caught up in a vicious circle of repeat and re-repeat, it’s time to take your own personal holiday. You don’t need to go out of town, even though that would be nice. You can simply schedule “your own weekend.” Do only the things you want to do—take time for a nap and to relax, slow down your speed and rejuvenate your body. During this time, spend a moment being grateful for everything you have, big and small.

Changing your routine. Feel like you’re stuck in a rut and that every day is exactly the same? Switching up your routine will get your body and creativity flowing. So, change I up my schedule and gain new perspective. Try a new workout routine, I check out a new restaurant or just alter my morning commute – I feel refreshed, rejuvenated and reenergized.

Just Relax. This five-letter word is a challenge. Many of us don’t even know what it means to relax! Well, the first step is to actually make time for relaxation – so schedule it in that jam-packed calendar of yours! Whether you pack your belongings the night before so you can set your alarm half an hour later or splurge on something special you haven’t done in awhile, choose whatever makes you the happiest and enjoy it!

Basics Everyone Should Learn And Practice......

It’s come to my attention that the vast majority of problems could be solved if we followed some fundamental rules. Nope, college courses are not necessary. Rather, all we need is a trip down memory lane…

10 Life Lessons I Learned In Kindergarten…

1. Share. It’s true: sharing is caring. Whether you’re a pro in your field with information to share or just have an extra (healthy) cookie. Share. Just as the classroom was a better place when we all shared, so too is the world.

2. Look both ways before crossing the street. Yes, even if you’re texting. (Especially if you’re texting.)

3. Wash your hands before eating. The sandbox may still be one of the germiest places of all time (in my head anyway), but the subway is pretty darn gnarly too. A little soap and water does everyone good – especially if you’re sharing.

4. Play fair. Follow the rules, watch out for your teammates and don’t play dirty. No one likes a cheater (case in point: John Edwards). And no biting…outside of the bedroom (if you’re into that sorta thing).

5. Find a buddy. Even The New York Times today wrote about the importance of female companionship across species as a necessary means of survival. Literally, it can be a matter of life or death.

6. Say you’re sorry. It’s amazing how far two words can take you in the world. Admit mistakes and learn from them. Say, “I’m sorry.” Your ego will forgive you for the minor discretion.

7. Clean up after yourself. No one likes a slob – and, trust me, if the cuteness points didn't work when you were 5, they’re not going to work now. Face it: you ‘aint getting any cuter than the 3 and a half foot version of you.

8. No hitting. Seriously. It’s a non-negotiable whether you’re 6 or 66. Keep your hands to yourself. (Except when following rule #11)

9. Put things back where you found them. Whether you borrow a pen from a co-worker or use the Kettle bells at the gym, put them back where you found them. Everyone will be happier in the end (and you may just be able to find what you’re looking for in the future too.)

10. Hold hands. It’s a scary world out there…holding hands makes everything better.